Mother’s Day is around the corner. In 2022, Mother’s Day falls on Sunday, May 8th. I asked my mom community of followers on Instagram what they REALLY want for Mother’s Day and I collected those answers together in this post.
What was interesting to me is the difference between moms who have kids still in the house vs. moms who’s kids are grown and away from home. Not all mom’s want the same thing, but there were A LOT of common threads. Don’t be afraid to ASK your mom or spouse what they want and allow them to tell you honestly and authentically what they want without feeling guilty for what they crave.
Here are some answers of what moms actually want for Mother’s Day.
The top two answers were overwhelmingly 1. a hotel room alone for the night and 2. not having to parent, make all the decisions and not having the responsibility of parenting for the day. These were by far the most common answers to my question. Here are some answers that mom’s with younger children gave:
The interesting thing here is that while moms with younger children craved some alone time, moms with grown children craved time with their kids. Here are some of their answers.
Here are some of the answers that moms in general would like. Some are not surprising and totally understandable, but some may surprise a husband.
Almost all answers had multiple moms who gave that answer. I see a common thread here. Us moms work hard and sometimes we just need a little alone time and/or a little appreciation and both are totally deserved.
I think there tends to be this preconceived notion that moms need to spend Mother’s Day with their family, but shouldn’t moms get that one day to spend it how they like with no judgment? If a mom wants to be surrounded by family on the day, great! If a mom wants to be alone without her family, that is great too! Everyone is different and has different needs and buckets that need to be filled. Husbands, remember this day isn’t about YOU. This is about your wife. If she wants alone time, don’t interpret this as she doesn’t want to spend time with you. This feeling has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her needing some quiet time. Don’t take any of that personally. My husband and I have had this discussion many times.
Dads and kids, hopefully this list helped give you some ideas and again, ask your spouse, girlfriend or mom what they would like. If they say, “Oh, I don’t know.” Then ask them, “How about a fancy brunch, time alone with a hotel room or a spa day?” and see what they say. Sometimes they just need to hear the ideas that are on the table to be able to make a decision and tell you what they really want.
Happy Mother’s Day ladies!
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