I am not perfect, nor are any of us…I hope…and if you are congratulations.
My daughter no longer naps. She hasn’t napped for awhile on a regular basis, but last week, sure enough, 20 minutes before her soccer practice she passed out on my bed while I was folding laundry. I knew she would be sad if she missed soccer. She fell asleep wearing one of her princess costumes, so I figured I would take off the costume and get her dressed while she slept to save time. I got her in her shirt, pants and socks. I even put her shinguards on while she slept and than her shoes. I woke her up and carried her to the car to head to soccer practice.
My husband came to soccer practice and was sitting next to me and we both commented on how she seemed a little “off”. She is normally really fast, but seemed a little slower than her normal self and was slightly awkward when dribbling the ball. She fell over a couple times, but had a smile on her face the whole time and was giggling and loving soccer like usual.
At the very end of practice the couch calls the parents on to the field to pick up our kids. As we are standing there on the field…with the other parents…at the very end of practice…my husband leans over to me and says “Are her shoes on the wrong feet?” I looked down and almost started crying. My poor little monkey had ran around the whole soccer practice with her shoes on the wrong feet, but never once complained. I felt so incredibly bad. It was an accident on my part that when she was sleeping I put her shoes on while she was laying down and they ended up on the wrong feet. I still felt like the worst mom ever though that I didn’t even notice. Relatively speaking, this is so tiny, so small, yet made me feel so bad that first and foremost it probably was very uncomfortable, if not painful, for my daughter. Secondly, I felt bad that my daughter would be embarrassed when we realized that her shoes were on the wrong feet. And third, as a mom, I struggle with this regularly, I didn’t want the other parents to look down on me or judge me for not noticing her shoes on the wrong feet. Isn’t that so bad that I even worry about that? But I do! Why do I even care what they think right? I think a lot of moms struggle with this and I am one of them.
I wanted to share this because motherhood is filled with moments like this. Again, I am not perfect and these moments are very humbling, but happen to us all. I think every parent should be given a big hug and congratulated everyday. Even if you are rarely told, your child appreciates you and needs you 🙂
I would love to hear other parent fails so we can all make each other feel better 😉
Theresa | 14th Feb 14
Awwww! I wouldn’t worry about it. Especially now that it is over. In hindsight, you’ll chuckle about it…no worries. That is what I say!
Half Crazy Mama | 14th Feb 14
Lol, thanks Theresa. We are already getting a good laugh out of it. My mom sent me a text message asking if my daughter’s shoes are on the right feet today. 🙂
Leslee | 14th Feb 14
Oh Emelia! I seriously snickered out loud (I’m reading this at work)!!! Poor little bear, what a trooper and indeed this will be one for the baby book and you will all laugh about this for a very long time! I can see Grandma asking you on your daughter’s wedding day if her shoes are on the right feet 🙂 ♥
Half Crazy Mama | 15th Feb 14
Totally. My daughter is laughing yet, but the rest of us are. 🙂
Kristen @ The Smith Summary | 14th Feb 14
I could share some of my #parentfail with you but I’m sure there’s a character limit to comments… 🙂 Just know you are certainly not the only one!!!
Half Crazy Mama | 15th Feb 14
Lol! Thank you Kristen 🙂
Katie | 15th Feb 14
I promise you: it’s okay.
A few weeks ago we were enjoying a day at a garden about 1-1/2 hours away from our house – hiking, picnicking, being outside. After a few HOURS of being there, I realized my 5 year-old’s pants were on backwards. It probably didn’t feel “right” to him, but it wasn’t enough for him to complain about. After I helped him turn them around in the bathroom, he said: “oh! This IS more comfortable!”
I trust if your daughter was truly unhappy or uncomfortable, she would have trusted that you would have helped her. And that’s what makes you a good parent. A parenting fail would have been ignoring her request for help.
Half Crazy Mama | 15th Feb 14
Thank you Katie. That is very true 🙂
Leah Sannar | 15th Feb 14
Oh my goodness, I was reading through the linkups at SITS Girls today and that’s how I found your blog. The title to yours just totally hit home for me, because I just posted on my blog about losing my temper with my son. It was the one of the worst moments of my life. So, I totally get it. Don’t stress too hard over the shoes… she knows you love her. And if you want to feel a little better about your fail, you should read mine. It was rough. Keep your chin up!!
Leah – http://www.lifelemonsandlemonade.com/i-lost-my-temper-today
Half Crazy Mama | 15th Feb 14
Thank you for sharing! I realize that what makes us great moms is that we actually realize these things instead of being oblivious 🙂
Sarah Day | 15th Feb 14
Years ago my husband and I took our really-young kids to an outdoor winter festival. We wheeled my moody toddler around in a stroller all day in the cold only to find out the next day he had pneumonia. Can you tell I still feel guilty?
Half Crazy Mama | 15th Feb 14
When I was little my mom did the same thing with me. She just thought I had a cold, but I also don’t remember feeling so bad that I didn’t enjoy what we were doing. I still had fun even with pneumonia that we didn’t know I had 🙂 Thank you for sharing!!!
Brittany | 16th Feb 14
Oh, don’t feel bad about that! I’ve done much, much worse!
Half Crazy Mama | 16th Feb 14
Lol, thank you 🙂
Suzanna | 16th Feb 14
As a new mom (#babyd is almost 7 weeks old), I’m discovering that parenting fails start really early in their lives! Thanks for sharing yours today 🙂
Suzanna
Ps I’m a new follower over from #SITSsharefest!
Half Crazy Mama | 16th Feb 14
Congrats on your new little one Suzanna!!! Just remember you aren’t alone! If you ever need a mom to vent to I am here 🙂
Amanda Her | 20th Feb 14
Oh no! LOL. Cut yourself some slack momma! We’ve all done things that we’re not so proud of…like aloowing our kids to eat an ENTIRE jar of Nutella while sitting in front of the TV, just because it gave you a few hours of peace and quiet. (That may or may not be a true story.) 🙂
Things will happen, and our kids will live. It builds character!!!