Keeping Up With The Other Moms

When I pick my daughter up from preschool I see more Lululemon than what a store even carries. I see moms pushing strollers with 5 month olds and they don’t even look like they were ever pregnant. I see parents carrying trays of cupcakes that look like turtles and am amazed by the work and time it must have taken. I see perfectly coiffed hair that is adorable. I see a peaceful calm looking mother with 4 kids all under 5 years old!
As a mother we constantly see other moms and it is hard not to compare.
Their child eats peas and mine doesn’t. Am I doing something wrong?
Their hair is actually styled and they have makeup on and I don’t. Where do they find the time?
Their house is spotless. Where do they hide the mess?
The truth is no mom can parent the exact same way. Every child is different.
Maybe that mom has a nanny so she has a little extra time or she gets up hours before her kids. Maybe her child likes to eat peas, but won’t eat any other fruit or vegetable. We never know what goes on behind the scenes.
It is so very hard not to compare, but I encourage every parent to try to give it up.
Instead strive to be amazing. Lead by example. Think outside the box. Mix it up a little bit. Learn along with your child. Be Super Mom! We all have it in us, but remember that your definition of Super Mom might be different than another mom’s and that doesn’t make either of you wrong. We are all parents. We are all in the same boat. Let’s offer a helping hand if we see another parent in need with no judgement. Wouldn’t it be great if we all felt a little more amazing because we all realize that no parent is perfect? Happy parenting!


  1. CarliAlice (@CarliAlice) | 21st Mar 13

    Terrific thoughts! I’m so glad my kids are grown though because it seems so much harder for the moms now.

    • thehalfcrazymama | 21st Mar 13

      Thank you. I think it’s crazy that people have to get on preschool waiting lists when they are pregnant and everything is so competitive these days. I don’t remember it being like that when I was young.

  2. debby9972 | 23rd Mar 13

    Happy Saturday Sharefest! That is great advice. My children are grown and believe me 20 years from now those things/comparisons won’t matter at all. Be the best mom you can and just focus on your beautiful children!

  3. Robbie | 23rd Mar 13

    Some people are just naturally more competitive than others. I do the best I can with what I have where I am.

  4. Kate | 23rd Mar 13

    Love this sentiment – school yard competitive politics are just about the worst thing ever!

    Have a lovely weekend.


    Kate x
    Kate at Home

    • thehalfcrazymama | 23rd Mar 13

      Thank you! I feel like everything is becoming more and more competitive and younger and younger ages.

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