Dear moms, I think some of you need a time out!

Dear Moms,

Why so much judgement?  Can’t we all just get along?  Whether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, it isn’t easy.  Whether you have 1 kid or 12 kids, it isn’t easy.  Being a mom is the most amazing, but also hardest job anyone can ever have.  We need to stick together and support one another instead of putting oneself on a pedestal and belittle another mom for their choices.  

To the moms who work from home, you keep working!  To the moms who complain about the moms who work from home, it isn’t easy, back off.  To the moms who work outside the home, you are awesome!  To the moms that lament about working moms, get over it!  To the moms who stay home and keep the family running, it is hard work!  To the moms who hate on those moms, no one is just sitting around eating bon bons all day.  It ain’t easy!

To the moms who make a little extra money for their families by selling products. My hat is off to you!  That is a hard gig.  To the moms who complain about those mom trying to sell them stuff, seriously?  You’re complaining about someone trying to help support their family?  If you don’t want to buy the product then don’t, but you don’t have to complain about the fact that they are trying.  That is a job, just like any other job.

Don’t be so quick to judge.  You never know how someone’s life is until you walk in their shoes.  Don’t be so quick to think the grass is always greener.  Working mom bagging on stay at home mom, have you ever thought maybe that mom would really like to be in a setting with adults and earning money, but with the rising cost of childcare it is actually more affordable for the mom to stay home regardless of what she may want?  Stay at home mom judging working mom who has super long hours, did you think about what it must feel like when she has to miss the school concert or field trip day?  There are 2 sides to every coin.  Whether you are a mom who chooses to stay home, or has to stay home, or a mom who chooses to work, or has to work, there are tradeoffs with every decision and none of them are easy.  There is not one that is better than the other, so lighten up on the mom judgement of others.  You may think you know what someones life is like, but you have no clue.  

Some people have lots of family to help, some people have no family to help, some have a lot of disposable income, some have no disposable income.  The thing is though, hardships, health, and life events happen to everyone regardless of who they are, so lets not be so quick to judge and instead be kind.  Offer a smile, a helping hand, a “good job mom”, or even just refraining from posting every comment that comes into your mind on Facebook.  I guarantee that moms are harder on themselves and don’t need the extra judgement.

The problem with the judgement is it trickles down to our kids.  They hear what we say and digest it.  It then gets carried on to the playground.  We wonder where kids learn things?  A lot of the time it is from us.  How do you want your kids to act?  That should be the rule of thumb before you say something, or type something, or act a certain way.  

So what do you say?  Can’t we all just get along?  Can we wave the white flag and agree to disagree on some things, but just be nice to one another?  Less judgement, more laughter, for the sake of our kids.  

Let me start by praising all the moms I know.  You are all amazing!  Some days are wonderful, somedays not so much, but we get through it.  You are doing a great job!  Stop being hard on yourself.  That person that seems like they are cooking Pinterest perfect meals all the time is not.  I guarantee they have mom fails too.  That mom at school that seems to have it all together I guarantee has bad days too.  That mom who seems like she has the smartest, most talented, happiest kids I promise also has mom meltdowns.  There is no such thing as perfect.  Let’s band together to stop the judgment, the pity parties, and the shaming.  Stop comparing and live your best life.  You will enjoy it so much more.  I promise. 🙂